Let Go

Letting Go

 

-         You absolutely need stress relief. Learn to distance yourself internally from upsetting things. Keep your inner peace. Forgive and let go. (Not just "butterflies", but especially the "cockroaches"!) Forgive others, forgive yourself too. And really LET GO. Do what you can to get rid of negative feelings. Negative feelings impede the immune system and damage the functioning of all cells.

 

Cancer is known to have many causes. Some are food-related (incl. animal proteins), others are stress-related (incl. buried emotions). External environmental factors include carcinogenic substances from agricultural chemicals, exposure to irradiation, and virus (EB virus causing malignant lymph tumours, C virus causing liver cancer, a virus causing adult T cells leukemia, even HIV virus, etc. These viruses are often caught from blood.). Internal factors can be low immune function caused by certain food and drink, smoking, drugs, ageing, a lack of exercise, or physical over-exertion, etc. And emotional causes are not to be underestimated either.    

Many people know intuitively that many of their physical problems are caused by unresolved emotions. These could include anger, fear, guilt feelings, and more. Such feelings can make you sick.

 

Many serious diseases, including cancer, have multiple causes. It is quite likely that emotional factors contribute to the cancer you’re experiencing.

 

Logically, therefore, when emotional causes (such as conscious or subconscious memories of trauma) can be sorted out, this contributes to physical healing.

 

It might not be so easy to pinpoint the emotional reason for a symptom or illness. But you could ask yourself – quietly, when you are undisturbed – what such an emotional contributor could be. Just think along the following lines: If I could live life all over again, what person would I rather not meet, and what event would I rather skip? What could have contributed to my symptoms? What would life be like – in detail – if I didn’t have these symptoms? At whom or at what am I very angry? Why might I feel that I deserve this illness? Questions like these might get you to a core issue, such as a trauma.

 

Other issues could be of a different nature. Ask yourself, What benefits am I getting from this illness? If the illness went away, what would I have to give up? What would I have to do that I don’t want to do?

 

You might sense some resistance to those questions. That in itself would indicate that there are underlying issues. So then persistence is important.

 

Some people have found great relief in EFT or PMA, both of which aim at the subconscious in order to release trapped emotions.

 

Others have learned from the past and were able to let go without keeping track of old grievances. They have been able to forgive others and then concentrated on what is good about these people. They also have found it possible to forgive themselves and learned to focus on what is good about life.

 

Letting go means to face the facts about your traumas and failures, and moving on. You accept that there is nothing you can do to change the past. In the past you were like this and that, and in the past you knew only so much, especially as a small child. Now you’re a different and older person, and you know a lot more. It’s done, gone, passé. Let go! If you find yourself ruminating over your mistakes in the past though, and how they have affected others, please put it right if you can, but if that’s not possible, think about it this one time, but then STOP, and forgive yourself, because that’s in the past, the water is down the drain, and you can’t get it back. And, yes you can, you DO have the strength to do that, just allow it. LET GO! You can also ask God for forgiveness and trust in him.

 

And now please concentrate on what is GOOD about life, your life. Sit down, take lots of time for this, and make a list of things that are good and enjoyable in your life, even if they are very small things. Also list things that are good about the people you know. (Nothing negative is allowed on this list.) And now dwell on it and consider life from this changed viewpoint. Count (not your problems but) your blessings. And be grateful for them. Feel it deeply inside yourself. You can also thank God for those blessings.

 

 

Practical hints that might help you to LET GO of your past:

a)    Allow your memories to come up for a time, write things down, draw

or paint if it helps, talk about it with a close friend or a good counselor.

b)    Allow the emotions and painful memories to wash over you just this

once by re-living the situation of the trauma, you will feel a relief afterwards.

Let go of your pride, you don’t need to get drunk or overeat to cope with

his, or commit suicide. You’re only little you, one of many with similar

problems.

c)    Go to the people involved, phone them, email them, contact them,

and try to sort things out. Confess to them what you have done in the past.

Share how you feel about it, own up to your shame or guilt. 

Express your emotions. Apologize. Ask them for forgiveness. Allow yourself

to be vulnerable for a time.

d)    Ask God for forgiveness. Let go. And get on with life. Look in

new directions.

 

 

     

      There might be other things where you need to LET GO:

 

-       things you can’t do anymore, at least temporarily, for example travelling

 

 

 

-       people who are unsupportive, criticising you all the time

-       decisions re.

      secular work

 

 

 

 

List them above.

 

Now write down what you need to do to let these go:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dealing with Losses                      

 

 

 

-          When you lose your health, perhaps your job, and/or your freedom or ability or strength to do certain things, the most frequent emotions are  anger, shame, fear, sadness, and self-pity. Coping with these is difficult. You have no choice: you are having to determine your future while grappling with having lost what was dear to you. Most of all you feel alone.

 

 

 

-          In order to come to grips with such losses, sharing your feelings with others, especially with older friends, can go a long way. Doing so will help you realize that you are not going through your ordeal alone. So if you are feeling distressed, try opening up.

 

 

 

-          To handle the situation you also need to recognise that cancer is very common in these times, On average, every third woman and every second man gets cancer. In some countries every second person.  Knowing this helps to put things into perspective.

 

-          Another suggestion: don’t overdose on TV coverage of illness-related subjects or any problematic events for that matter. Discontinue watching violent content. You need to concentrate on health, not illness, and you need to focus on positive things, not problems whether real or fiction. The idea is to control what goes into your mind.

 

-          In practical terms, handle the situation by downsizing your lifestyle, your finances, by limiting your spending to essentials. Simplify your life by getting rid of debts as much as possible. Settle for a simple and wholesome lifestyle.

 

-          Review your lifetime goals, and update them where necessary. Then it will be easier to make reasonable decisions.

 

-          Reestablishing a schedule is also very useful. Get into a healthy routine of positive activities and then stick to them. You could make a simple written schedule for the week, and when you’ve accomplished something and you can tick it off, it gives you satisfaction. Routine can be very healthful to you.

 

-          When it comes to eating a narrow diet, don’t look longingly at what you can’t have. You’re doing this because you are wanting to get well. That has to be the priority. There’s lots more to life than eating.

 

-          Anyway, whatever you have lost, you benefit from visualising it coming back to you. Think about what you’ll do when you are well again, make definite plans, prepare for it, and look forward to that time. And visualise how you will work again, what you will do, and how you will do it. Make it real in your mind, enjoy the daydream. That reinforces to the immune system what you’re aiming at.

 

 

 

-          WORK SHEET

 

 

 

What I will DO

What I will AVOID

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now you need to replace anything negative in your mind with positive things. Otherwise your mental garden will grow “weeds” again instead of beautiful flowers.

 

 

 

Healthy Thinking  -  You are what you think.         

 

 

 

Healthy thoughts give you strength.

 

Healthy thoughts help you to fulfil your daily work and feel good about it.

 

Healthy thoughts cause healthy feelings or emotions.

 

If you feel unpleasant emotions, chances are you’ve been thinking unhealthy thoughts.

 

Healthy thinking is much easier than positive thinking!

 

 

 

Beliefs, feelings, attitudes and lifestyle are important factors affecting health. Psycho-Oncologist O. Carl Simonton uses Healthy Thinking to help patients to see how they can improve on their abilities, realities, opportunities.

 

Your confidence and intuition can be supported and your immune system strengthened through the way you think.

 

You can actually change the way you think, provided you believe it and use your imagination in the right direction. You need to know WHY you’re doing what you’re doing. Set goals you really believe in, big or small. Learn to think creatively. You’ll feel much better for it.

 

Instead of just thinking healthily in general, think healthily in precise terms. See yourself as the best you can be. Examples:

 

-          See yourself - the way you look like – in the best possible way, the best you can be.

 

-          See yourself – the way you feel – in the best possible way, the best you can be.

 

-          The way you think and speak to yourself and to others – change that to the best you can be.

 

-          See yourself – how happy you are – the best you can be.

 

-          See yourself – in what you contribute to the world – in the best possible way, the best you can be.

 

-          How much real love you have in your life – change that to the best you can be.

 

 

 

Because: How you see yourself is what you will move toward! What you keep looking at, that’s what you’ll become, whether you like it or not!

 

If you look and keep looking at a negative role model and think “That’s what I don’t want to become” you’ll become negative. But if you look at a positive role model, and see yourself that way, you’ll become like that: healthy and positive. Do expect success, do expect happiness, put your energy into making things good and great, and it will become healthy and great. Say to yourself, “I am taking care of my body and my health, and I see it becoming the body that I can and will love, because it’s so great.” Again, see it in definite examples: “My belly makes me feel great”. “My hair makes me feel great.” “My legs make me feel great.” “My ... (enter what you like) makes me feel great and I am very happy with it.”

 

It works, because every cell of your body is eavesdropping on your thoughts, noticing your thoughts, reacting to them. The cells of your body react on the way you think. Think healthily, and you help your health along. Think healthily, and your body will become acceptable to you, it will be slimmer (or the opposite, if that’s what it needs), it will be good to look at, it will feel good.

 

In terms of getting well, you need to be involved in your own healing, this gives the immune system an added impetus and boost.

 

So now there’s no excuse for laziness, - all the efforts in treating yourself in order to heal your body from cancer are actually good for you, - from growing wheatgrass to cleaning the juicer and taking the kitchen compost outside, etc. etc., you know what you’re doing it for, - just smile and do it, gently and graciously, - and your body will thank you for it.

 

 

 

Right column: some of Angie's latest artwork.